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Where Reiki Meets Sexuality: Finding Your Inner Lover

• Christine Renee, Isabel Wells, and Shantel Ochoa • Season 3 • Episode 4

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What happens when sacred energy meets sexuality? In today's episode, Christine shares about one of her passion topics as she unpacks the ethical boundaries of Reiki practice while exploring its untapped potential for sexual healing and pleasure. Note: This episode comes with a trigger warning for sexuality and sexual assault.

In this conversation, Christine opens a door many practitioners keep firmly shut: the beautiful potential when Reiki and sexuality connect in consensual, equal-power relationships. 

Through her passionate advocacy for ethical practice, she creates a clear contrast between what's appropriate in professional settings versus intimate relationships. She invites listeners to consider how energy work can enhance sensual experiences, especially when beginning with self-pleasure practices. 

She also explores:

  • The intersection of sacred energy and sexuality
  • Ethical boundaries in Reiki practice
  • The importance of consent and power dynamics
  • Differentiating professional vs. intimate energy work
  • Potential of Reiki in consensual, intimate relationships
  • Use of energy work to enhance sensuality and self-pleasure
  • Awakening to your Inner Lover
  • Christine’s personal healing from sexual trauma
  • Developing healthy boundaries and inner balance
  • Role of self-love and conscious sexuality in healing
  • And more!

Whether you're recovering from sexual trauma, exploring energy work, or simply curious about conscious sexuality, Christine offers practical wisdom about self-knowledge, boundary-setting, and the revolutionary power of radical self-love.

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Speaker 1:

It's time to remember your divine purpose and limitless potential. Welcome to Wisdom Rising, the official podcast of Moon Rising Shamanic Institute. Join shamanic Reiki practitioners Christine Rene, isabel Wells and Chantel Ochoa as we guide you on a journey of radical self-discovery and spiritual guidance. Each week, we'll dance through the realms of shamanism, mysticism, energy, healing and personal development to illuminate your path to true healing and self-sourced wisdom Through weekly inspired conversations and interviews with leading spiritual and shamanic practitioners. We are here to help you acknowledge, reconcile and balance your energy so that you can awaken to the whispers of wisdom rising from within. Hello, hello and welcome. Welcome back to another amazing episode here on the Wisdom Rising podcast. In today's episode, you get to hear Christine dive into one of her recent passion topics. Over the years, you've heard her bring this topic to the show as she explored balancing the archetypes of masculine and feminine energies, exploring the priestess path and erotic shamanism and so much more. But in today's episode she takes this topic from a slightly different perspective as she dives in to Reiki and sex. This episode does have a trigger warning as we touch on some potentially sensitive topics like sexuality and sexual assault, so please listen carefully and at your own discretion. With that said, christine opens today's episode with an acknowledgement of some of the unethical practices that we're seeing happen in the Arizona Reiki community, and she takes us as an opportunity to explore when a sexual experience combined with Reiki is appropriate and when it isn't. As she dives into the ethics and integrity of this practice, she also touches on what happens to the entire spiritual community when these are mixed inappropriately. But this episode isn't all in the shadows. Christine also brings forward the light, as she shares how Reiki can enhance our sensual and sexual experiences and why, when we take these practices from a spiritual perspective, they can be incredibly powerful on our journey to healing. Spiritual perspective that can be incredibly powerful on our journey to healing. Christine also shares some of her own experiences when it comes to Reiki and sex and talks about how Reiki can be a part of your own self-pleasure practice and allow you to awaken to your own inner lover. This episode may not be for everyone, but this is an incredibly powerful topic and Christine brings it forward with such wisdom, passion and purpose. So if this topic is lighting you up, please let Christine know, as she's thinking about bringing more masterclasses, workshops and podcasts on this topic to our Moon Rising community. We would love to hear your top takeaways from today's episode.

Speaker 1:

Over in the Moon Rising Shamanic Mystics Facebook group, we have a community of over 4,000 amazing individuals walking this path, asking questions, exploring different avenues and mixing modalities, and we are here to support it all.

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As we continue to support our community, we are also stepping into more flow and intuition for this summer, so our podcast schedule may become a bit more sporadic as we invite in more passion and purpose rather than a rigid schedule and structure. We hope that this is your invitation to invite that same flow and intuition into your life, but know that we will still be active over in our Facebook group so that we can continue sharing our journeys and continue supporting you in yours. So we hope that this is your invitation to step into the flow this summer and find your own passion and purpose. But before we get started with today's episode, where Christine brings forward her passion, remember to subscribe to our podcast so that you can get access to new episodes sooner, and subscribe to our newsletter so you can stay up to date on all of the amazing happenings that we're planning for over the summer. With all of that said, let's go to the show amazing happenings that we're planning for over the summer.

Speaker 2:

With all of that said, let's go to the show. Today's topic is on Reiki and sex, and there's been a lot of underlying conversations being had in the Reiki community around inappropriate touch. That's been going on, particularly in Arizona, and part of what is coming up for me is like yes, we need to completely recognize and understand and honor these assault victims that are, that it's happening and this is just completely completely unethical, completely wrong in all the ways. And where's the other pendulum sling of when is Reiki and sex appropriate? We need to have this conversation about Reiki as part of your self-pleasure practice, reiki as part of your sensuality and your sexuality when is it okay, when is it not okay? And so we're going to dive into all of the things, and I am really passionate about this topic because I find that they're not exclusive to one another, right, like I feel like this is one of those topics. Like I'm a huge mixed modality advocate. Like I love mixing modalities. I mix shamanic Reiki, I mix Reiki and coaching. I, I, I'm a mixer, right, and I, I, I love honoring people who are mixing. But you need to also understand those ethical boundaries. And where is our where what is appropriate and what's not appropriate.

Speaker 2:

Okay, so a lot of this has been coming forward because there's a situation going on right now in Arizona of a man who is under the spiritual guise of as a healer and he is pulling women into his world and misguiding them and ultimately sexually assaulting them. And so I'm going to start off today's conversation by actually reading an advocate's post, because I think it's that important. I think this is something that really needs to be understood and at the forefront, and I can't state it better than Jenny Mitchell, and so she posted this morning. Well, yesterday, sisters, it's time I have stood at the gates of justice, sword and shield in hand, reporting this harm to the city of Pura, lora and the Arizona Attorney General, the Arizona Massage Therapy Board, the church, the legal and sex abuse advocates. I have done this everything I can to stand in front of this, to take the brunt of it, because what he is doing is wrong, it's illegal and it's happening right in the places we've trusted to be safe. But here's the truth. The final blow to end this, this abuse, lies in your voice, your story, your truth caveat. That is why I'm sharing this, like I think we need to be. Our awareness needs to be on alert of people who are utilizing their spiritual stature as a way to have sexual misconduct. Because, okay, before I get into the rant, let me continue.

Speaker 2:

He uses spiritual language, healing talk, energy work, sacred touch, but it's all a mask. Here's what he says you are not ready for the deep work, he says if you hesitate, so you'll feel like you're failing him. If you say no, if you really want to heal, you'll let me go deeper. He says to course you twisting your spiritual hunger to break your boundaries. You don't really want this.

Speaker 2:

He says to gaslight you, flipping your discomfort or fear into your fault. He tells you to remove your bra or your underwear, even if your top is on, because the energy needs to flow. He asks you to sit on his lap or let him hold you in his energy, using your search for comfort against you. He says flesh to flesh contact is necessary for healing, but it's not against you. He says flesh to flesh contact is necessary for healing, but it's not. He rubs his bare chest against you or presses his body into yours, saying your energies are merging. He says it might feel erotic, but it's spiritual, grooming you to doubt your own boundaries, grooming to doubt your own boundaries. He asked you to touch him, especially his pelvic region, saying it will help him release energy.

Speaker 2:

He talks about your sexual energy or your feminine power. It's manipulation, not medicine. He talks about his own sexual energy or blockages. That's his stuff, not yours. He frames everything in spiritual talk. So you'll question your fear and silence your no. And even if it was just a rub on your belly or a touch on your thrive, if you don't fully, knowingly and freely consent, it's assault. Let's be clear about Reiki to Reiki is gentle. It's about still hands or hands hovering above your body, palms, open, no pressure, no rubbing. It does not involve massaging or rubbing your body, removing any undergarments, touching your breasts or between them, inner thighs or pelvis, direct skin to skin contact or any sexual or erotic talk.

Speaker 2:

If he did any of this in a Reiki session or class, sisters, hear me, it is not Reiki, it is not healing, it is abuse and it is illegal. Consent must be freely given, not manipulated, not pressured, not threatened. It must be informed and ongoing. You knew what was happening and kept agreeing to it. It must not be coerced by spiritual talk or his authority as a healer. If, even if you said yes because you felt trapped or frozen or because you didn't know how to say no, if you blindly trusted him due to his authority, it's not consent. Even if it was free or paid, it's still illegal. And then she goes on to quote the Arizona state laws of where all of this is actually considered sexual abuse.

Speaker 2:

Okay, so she's advocating to share this story. I've posted it in our group and I do believe that we need to share it because this is not okay, and not our Reiki community or anywhere else and I want that message to be heard and shared. And I also want to also say that it's not okay in these power dynamics If you ever have someone who is in a spiritual authoritative position and they're coercing you into anything, that's not okay. But if you are married and have a consensual sexual arrangement with a monogamous partner, right. Or even if you had consensual polyamory agreements, whatever it may be, but like if you are equals and you are practicing on each other and you are inviting in sexual energy to be added with Reiki, I don't see anything wrong with that right.

Speaker 2:

But this is where there is no power dynamic and so we need to go back even further. Of? Where do we understand our yeses and nos? Where do we understand what our boundaries are? How do we have this interpersonal development and spiritual development and sexual development to know where that okay is and that really comes to? How do we develop our internal intermasculine and feminine energies right? We need that strong intermasculine energy to say this is my boundary, this is what I'm not comfortable for, this is what I'm not available for, this is what I am available for. And when you have that inner knowingness, that inner truth of like this is what my container is and what I'm available for and not available for, then that feminine energy can flow within that safe container.

Speaker 2:

But if we are having spiritual authority figures manipulate us, gaslight us, that is like this should never be part of a session. I absolutely agree that if you were in a professional session, reiki should be just light touch or hovering above the body, always, right. This isn't. There is no tissue manipulation, okay. So, yes, I know, like, if you are a Reiki professional and not a massage therapist, that's different. Like, if you are mixing modalities and you are a professional massage therapist and you are a Reiki professional as well and you're, you're giving, uh, asking for consent to your clients to have a Reiki massage. That's one thing, and you're going to be following your board of your um massage board for the rules that pertain to massage, that's. I'm not talking about that, like, if you are a Reiki professional, if you're a shamanic Reiki professional, if you are a Reiki coach, there's like you are then in a position of authority to any of your clients and any kind of sexual touch is inappropriate, okay.

Speaker 2:

So if you are a teacher, if you are a practitioner and you are touching on any of those places and spaces I just read, that's not okay. That's not okay. It's not okay and we need to be learning this in our Reiki level. Twos, right, we need to be learning trauma-informed care. We need to be learning informed consent.

Speaker 2:

Like I am a huge advocate of understanding what people's experiences are so we can try to do it the best possible to create safe and sacred containers, absolutely. And so when those lines are crossed anywhere in our industry, it hurts all of us, especially the true men, healers, that are abiding by these ethical codes, standards and procedures, who are doing everything in their power to be okay. And so one man in this industry who is really fucking it up for the rest of the men who are doing it right. And so this isn't about. This is about one man who is fucking it up for the rest of us, right. And that is why I'm so coming on with this strong message of watch yourself right, like question who are you learning from? What are they trying to teach you? How are they trying to teach it?

Speaker 2:

And, at any point, if you are feeling yuck, if you are feeling contracted, if you are feeling that you are coerced, if you are feeling unsure about anything, if you're not an enthusiastic yes for any kind of sexual activity, then it should be a huge red flag warning sign and it should be a no and it should be a no. And this has come from not only what I'm reading right now. That's going on. But you know, I have been date raped, I have been sexually groomed, I have, like, I have been in situations that have made me feel small, that have made me feel uh, tiny, like, like spiritually condensed to almost nothing, right, and so if you don't feel absolutely expansive and having this full body, yes, like we're not, we shouldn't go there. We shouldn't go there, right, and I don't mean to shit on anyone, but these are really clear ethical lines and this is something that I teach in both my level two and my Reiki master's class that we need to have some level of understanding of trauma, informed care as well as informed consent, and so when we are in this space, reiki sessions really should be very clear, and so this is what I tell every single Reiki client that I have, and I do it in a way so that they know what I'm going to touch and what I'm not going to touch. Right, so I will tell them this is a light touch practice, but if you don't feel my hands, I'm hovering above your body. I won't be touching your chest area, your pelvic region or your throat, because those can be sensitive areas and I don't want to make you feel uncomfortable, triggered or anything else. I want you to feel as safe and calm as possible. So those areas I'm going to avoid by maybe working above your body and you can be I. I encourage you to be strongly like fully dressed, like I'm not asking anyone to take off their clothing. When I've had clients come in and they start undressing, I immediately stop them. I'm like this is a fully clothed practice. I do not want to have you take off your clothes.

Speaker 2:

I would say my most uncomfortable sessions were when I was working at a spa and they would go from one session to the next like they would come in for Reiki session and go get a massage afterwards. So they would come in nude with a robe on and get under the table and I and yeah they are, they've got a sheet and blanket up, but I'm like I don't want to be working on naked people. I don't, I'm not comfortable with it. Please tell these people that they need to wear clothing right, because one I'm not, because I'm not a massage therapist, I'm not trained in touch, like how to touch a naked body in an appropriate way, cause that's not what I am, that's not my professional, my professional uh, conduct right, like I'm a Reiki master, I'm a Reiki teacher right, like so I I've never gone to massage school, nor do I think we need to, but we need to have our sessions being really clear on what we are doing and how we are doing it well and ahead of time.

Speaker 2:

Even when I teach Reiki, whether it's a regular level, one class or Reiki master's class I tell every single student how I'm going to touch them when I'm doing their attunement. So a lot of times. There's a lot of teachers out there that want to keep this whole process secretive and not tell them what's going to happen. And I'm like, absolutely not. We need to be telling everyone. If we're going to touch them in any capacity, they need to know in advance. So if you're telling a student to close their eyes and be open to whatever experience and they don't know how you're going to touch them, your guard is going to go up if you've had any kind of trauma or not, right.

Speaker 2:

And so if we want our clients and our students to fully relax and feel safe, they need to know their options. They need to know like hey, if my touch makes you feel uncomfortable, please let me know and I will adjust. That is okay, and this is a container in which you can laugh, you can cry, you can shout, you can cough, you can take a break and go to the bathroom. This is your time to do your healing work. Your spiritual alignment and whatever that looks like is okay, right. And so when we dive in, I want my clients to feel that they can feel that energetic acceptance of whatever they are currently going through. And if that means I have a client that says I'm not comfortable for touch, I'm like, cool, that's not a problem at all. Right, that's how we should be conducting our sessions.

Speaker 2:

Now, if we take the session out of this, out of this paradigm, and go back to the conversation of Reiki and sets, when I am not a professional, when I'm not conducting a session, when I'm not a teacher and I'm in a sacred relationship where I am with my partner as an equal, I keep going back to that there is no position of authority. When I'm with my partner and we are having our sexy time and Reiki is in the mix, that can be a beautiful thing. But if we can go back even further than that, to how is it to have self-pleasure practices with Reiki? How is it to open yourself up to your energy flow and allow Reiki to be there as you move this energy through an erotic way If you're alone, right, like these are things that I absolutely encourage, because every single human is a sexual being and to deny that part of ourselves is to deny part of yourself, right.

Speaker 2:

So we are sexual beings. We all are right in some capacity. We are sexual beings. We all are right in some capacity. We are sexual beings. And to deny that aspect, deny that that area of our life is isn't. In my opinion, it's not healthy. And the more we can say, this is part of my life, this is part of who I am, and I'm going to fully accept my own sexuality, whatever that looks like, and go into a world of exploration with myself not with anyone else, with myself of what kind of touch do I like, how do I like to breathe, how do I like to move my own energy as I become my own inner lover?

Speaker 2:

Right, when we can approach our sexual development, our spiritual development, our personal development from this self-pleasure point of view of going. Each one of us has our inner lover. How do we like to be touched? Can we give ourself permission to come into a container, to say yes to that? And when you can start honoring and self-loving yourself to your fullest capacity of exploration, of saying yes, of saying like let's not let this be a five minute rush thing, right Like can you take an hour to fully engage your senses, to fully engage your physical being and honor it, bless it, love on it in all of the ways, and one of those ways can be with Reiki, right, and so when we can have this time, this self-exploration of Reiki as a energy that can, can move our sexual energy. What is that like? And if we know our bodies, if we know our spirits, that well then, when we come into these relationships with the like, when we come into these different dynamics, these power dynamics with other people, we can be like I know what my inner lover would do with this. They would say no.

Speaker 2:

I'm clear in my own yeses and nos, within my body, of how I like to be touched and this is not it. This is doesn't feel good to me, I feel, and sometimes we need to have good long breaks between events to really understand where our confusion lies, like I feel. Like confusion is a red flag. If you are like second guessing things, if you're doubting things, we need to have some distance and go inwards with our own inner lover, with our own divine feminine, with our own inner queen or king, whatever that means to you, and say this is what she wants, this is what he wants. What does that look like? And if we can learn, we can learn how to have exquisite, pleasurable experiences with me myself and I. I don't need anybody else.

Speaker 2:

You know, when I went to my first tantric week-long workshop in Costa Rica last October and it was a tantra ayahuasca workshop, but the tantra was really separate from the ayahuasca for the most part, other than the first ceremony, but it was. I had these really beautiful energetic experiences and I had this very clear realization that sexual energy and Reiki energy were the same thing, because I was moving energy and energy is energy and energy is exquisite. Energy is amazing, right, and so, when I could, I had my own aha moment of I could have this sexual, spiritual energy flow within my body, utilizing the microcosmic orbit, utilizing somatic body movements to bring the energy upwards, using breath work to enhance that process and have a full body orgasm without any kind of genital stimulation at all. I was like every single fucking woman needs to know this, like every, every woman needs to know this, because once you have this door open of oh my gosh, I can understand my energy, I can understand myself, I know what I want, I know what I like, I know what is possible for my physical container to experience ecstasy and bliss without stimulation, without another person. It's all me and whatever that looks like is okay.

Speaker 2:

When we drop expectations of this is what sex should be. We drop expectations of this is what pleasure should be, and you just get to meet yourself. You get to just meet yourself in that capacity of I am open to whatever this feels like and however it wants to unfold, and I'm going to breathe and I'm going to move and I'm going to make sounds, and I'm going to experience the fullness of my body without anyone else, without anyone else's judgment, without anyone else's pressure to know myself. That's when things really started to shift in my world, because I really did feel like, wow, if women knew this, if women knew this power, it could be absolutely amazing, because we aren't, then, hungry for sexual experiences and we know how to fully take care of ourselves, to fully honor ourselves, to fully love ourselves. And I think that is what is so oftentimes missing from this mix is that in some way, we aren't loving ourselves enough, and so we are seeking it outside of ourselves. We're seeking someone else to fill our cup instead of turning inward and going.

Speaker 2:

I love myself so much. I'm going to take care of all of my, all of my, my needs. I'm going to. I'm going to love myself so much. I'm going to take care of all of my needs. I'm going to love myself like no one has ever loved me before. I'm going to take this sweet moment and turn it into an hour, two hours of just honoring me, noticing my senses, noticing how I hear, notice, how my breath is moving through my body, how taste tastes, how touch feels like all of it, right? How, when you're in that energetic state, how you see colors beneath your eyes, like beneath your eyelids, and really fully experience all of you and your sexual, heightened part of who.

Speaker 2:

You are Right, and that's not. I haven't been in places and spaces where that's encouraged, and so I'm like let's create places and spaces where that's encouraged, because I think that's where, where it all starts. It all starts with self-love, and if we aren't loving ourselves fully and completely, how are we supposed to heal our body image issues? How are we supposed to heal those somatic places within ourselves that are holding the trauma? How can we not fully dance with the beauty of life? Right, if we want to live ecstatic, blissful lives, we got to start with me myself and I right. And from that part, from that knowingness that I can love me more than anyone else can love me, I know all of my parts of me and I can love all of it the light, the dark, the shadows, the messy places. I'm going to love on all of it and I'm going to like give myself the invitation to take the time to have essential sexy experience with yourself. That can be one of the most amazing healing opportunities you can give yourself, right.

Speaker 2:

And so when I hear hard fast rules that Reiki and sex can't go together ever, I'm like no, it can and it should start with the self-pleasure practice, right. And there's absolutely a place where it's completely inappropriate, right. Power dynamics inappropriate, right. Power dynamics inappropriate, right. And so when we can start with ourselves as a sensual sexual being who is starting our self love practice sessions with Reiki and allowing that energy to flow, it can lead to beautiful things, right. So start with yourself, start with yourself. And then, if you were in a loving partnership who is open to having intimate conversations, meaning you can freely express your desires, your fears, your boundaries without any inhibitions then yeah, have the conversation, have the conversation, and I think that's why currently I'm very excited about teaching Tantra workshops and intimacy workshops and conversate and having cacao ceremonies for heart openers. To have more of these conversations and just let's talk.

Speaker 2:

Like this topic is so taboo to begin with and so kept in the dark and so hidden that now it's this dark thing and it's like it doesn't have to be. We have to know, we have to understand our bodies, we have to understand our voices, we have to use our voices and it, it, it all truly, for me, comes back to that inner work. And if this was, you know, I feel like I also had a very difficult sexual experience this last fall and it allowed me to come into a place of going. I want more, I need more. I need more. I need to understand who I am and grow and define who who I am for me, before I let anyone else in. And as I was doing that practice, I, I, I'm super blessed.

Speaker 2:

I, I also am now in a relationship with a Tantra teacher and training and he's been doing Tantra for over 10 years and it's fucking amazing, right, because there is no but one, there is no power dynamic. We and I have always seen them this way, as as equals. Like I've attended some of his classes in the past, he's attended mine. Like we've been in each other's classrooms but never. We've always been friends, we've always been colleagues. And then it developed into something more where voices were always heard. The sacred container was always created especially in the beginning, to really communicate. Created especially in the beginning to really communicate.

Speaker 2:

Like it's it's probably more than a weekly basis that we're discussing specifically what our fears, what our desires and what our boundaries are, and to really have sexual trauma. Like I've had sexual trauma and I think one of my biggest, you know, hard places is having a really intense, expansive sexual experience and then saying no, I don't want that. And being ignored, right. So it became this thing where, like, well, I just won't say no anymore, because then it won't be rape, it won't be sexual assault. If I just go along with everything and it took me all of these years to get to the space of that's fucked up, that's not okay. I don't want to be hiding myself and making the other person comfortable for two and two at my expense, right. Like I don't, I'm not available for that anymore. And to really recognize like this is a problem area for me of like I have a hard time saying no because my nose haven't been listened to Right and I've been taken advantage of and I have this deep fear that due to my, my, my actual physical body size, that I can be swooped up and taken away and raped at any time. So I have a hard time going into public spaces without someone with me, because that's a reality. That's part like.

Speaker 2:

Life isn't always safe, and there was a time when I was like 16, 17 years old where that happened. Some guy picked me up, threw me over his shoulder and brought me to his bedroom to rape me and luckily there was someone there to get me out of the situation and that that in that instant that didn't happen, but it left a mark on me right Like. It left a mark that, like my nose, aren't going to be heard. Then I was date rape. My nose wasn't heard Right and so when we have these and you know women, we it's. We have been molested, we have been raped, we have been sexually assaulted and many men have as well Right Like, and so that's why it always comes back to.

Speaker 2:

Can we start with a self-pleasure practice? Can we start with me myself and I? Can we create a safe and sacred container for me to touch me, to explore me first, right, and I love that. We have beautiful, energetic healing tools now available to us, like the Yoni egg, like the Yoni wand, that can help us heal some of the somatic trauma in our Yonis right, like I'm a huge advocate for doing self-pleasure practices and exploration and holding space for your own healing and learning how to move through those body energetic charges that we're holding onto right. So what is that like for you? Like, where in your body do you need a love on fully and completely? And I think, when we can be really truly honest and vulnerable with ourselves? And if you're in a marriage, if you're in a partnership, if you're in a committed relationship, can we have those vulnerable conversations with our partner? And what does it tell us when that answer is no, and sometimes that answer is I need to work on my own self first. Maybe they are open to it but you're not ready to go there. Maybe you need to work with a therapist or a sex therapist, and that is okay. Asking for help is okay and I'm a huge advocate for that as well.

Speaker 2:

Like, if you are struggling with your no, if you're struggling and developing your own inner masculine of what you're available for and what you're not, what that solar plexus area of this is who I am, this is what I believe, these are my values. If those feel wishy-washy to you. Let's start there. You know I think that and it always had like I'm a huge advocate of solar plexus work and I always have been. I have been huge into fiery, shamanic work for a long time. It has only been recently that I really dipped in deeper into that sacral, femininity, juicy, sensual space, because I had so much things I needed to burn away. I needed to really get clear on this is what my values are, these are what my standards are, this is what my priorities are, this is who I am, this is who I'm not. This is what I'm available for, this is what I'm not available for. I had to work through all of that to then really sink into great.

Speaker 2:

That solar plexus energy has created my container for myself so that that divine feminine within me could blossom, could unfold, that could swim in the energy and in that. I think that's just a beautiful process. And so when we started developing soul rising, there was a lot of solar plexus information, there was a lot of solar plexus activating actions. There was so much in there and we really want to discover the limiting beliefs and where they came from, right, and and then it's like, okay, when we've done that work, when we're entering into the sacral chakra, work, like, how are we opening up the space to create the foundations so that our femininity, our flow, our breath, work, can then move forward and move this energy around and circulate through the body? Because, as you probably know, like we, none of us are perfect, are perfect, none of us have this perfect aligned chakras. Right, like, we all have stuff. We all have stuff, and I'm just a huge advocate for doing the interpersonal work, to doing the self-advocacy work, to to understanding our bodies, to understanding where things are stuck and then finding our flow from there. Right, and so I'm, I'm real, I was really blessed to have my tantrum mentor enter into my life when she did and, um, if you didn't catch the podcast on the priestess path with Kashi, like, go check out that episode, she is amazing.

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And it really was perfect, perfect, perfect timing. Because I was in a relationship that wasn't healthy and I didn't have my boundaries clear and I was being sexually groomed for things that I didn't want and I didn't know I didn't want it because I just didn't know. I was so confused and that energy of confusion should have been a red flag. There was a lot of red flags that I tried to overlook and I think that happens to women all the time. It happens all the time.

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And so, by having the Tantra Ayahuasca ceremony and then jumping into her power of portal class, where you were really working through the light and the shadow, like doing the dance with Persephone, of going into the underworld, like working with an honest energy and going into the underworld to really take off the layers in which we hold ourselves in, around the fear of rejection, around fear of abandonment, around fear like all of these fears that we, that we cloak ourselves in and in that fear of rejection, of that fear of they're not going to like me, of that fear of, um, like I want their approval in some way, then we, then we, we can get caught up in these unhealthy relationships. And by doing that work, it was, uh, it allowed me to go. Oh, my goodness, I know why I attracted this relationship, I know why I'm in this unhealthy relationship. I know what is happening and what I'm available for, what I'm not, and it was a fucking messy process. It was a really messy process and, um, and I really needed to learn a lesson. Uh, and the lesson really was I love myself more than whatever the fuck this is. And it took a long time to get there and in retrospect it wasn't a long time. I was only in this relationship for seven months. But in that process of I love myself more, that was the underlying lesson that I learned. I had to get to this point of I love myself more than and I love myself so incredibly deeply that I'm not available for the drama, I'm not available for the manipulation, I'm not available for whatever it was, whatever that was created, whatever it was, whatever what that was created, and when I could figure that out, I love myself and that's so. That's huge. So, yes, I was working through portal of power with Kashi I was, and then I joined her erotic alchemy group and both of these have an underlying tone of erotic shamanism and it all comes into this inner lover and learning how to love yourself totally and completely.

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So that when I was fully ready to say yes to my next relationship, I knew that I loved myself. I knew that I loved my body. I knew that I loved my voice I love the sounds that I make that I loved my body. I knew that I loved my voice. I love the sounds that I make, I love my light language. I love the spirituality work that I do. I love, I love myself, I love myself and no one can shake or break that, because that was a foundation I chose to lay and that I stand on every single day.

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And so when I came into that power, right, that power allowed my root chakra to be like I'm fucking solid I am. My GPS system is totally in the earth, deep down into mother Gaia, and it connects right up to my womb space, which opened up that sacral chakra energy, which opened up the solar plexus of going. This is what I'm available for, this is what I'm not, and I'm available to move that compassionate heart through and a huge amount of gratitude for how we each show up in our current relationship. And then I and and to use our voice, right, I don't think I've ever felt so free, absolutely. I don't think I've ever felt so free than in the relationship that I'm in now, because I feel safe, I feel held, I feel like whatever I say isn't gonna be judged, it's gonna be honored, whatever that is, and it goes both ways. It goes both ways and I'm like this is amazing. I think this is the best, healthiest relationship I've ever been in and it's amazing. It's amazing.

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So I think I wanted to share this story with you because I think there's a lot of fear out there, of judgment around. I've made these bad decisions. I'm taking responsibility for my bad decisions of getting into this relationship. And, yeah, there's some of it, and there's also fucking manipulation and gaslighting and bullshit. That's not your fault, shit happens. And how do we love ourselves more through it? Because I spent a lot of time and I still have moments where I am like and it sucks, and yet we learn and we grow and we can support ourselves, coming back into an alignment of going who am I, what do I want, how do I want to be treated, and can I do that for myself first? And so I'm sure if you guys have followed me for a while, you'll notice the different, the shift that I had over the winter.

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Right, I did a huge radical self-care, self-love series for reason and purpose. I needed to radically self-love myself to fully honor who I am as I was entering a new loving relationship, and so I'm, I'm sharing this from my heart, I'm sharing this from my soul of if you are engaging Reiki and sex together, know, know what, where that lies. If there's power dynamics, manipulation, gaslighting, any kind of bullshit, there's questioning. If you're confused, if you're feeling small, like all of those things, take a breath, step back, reach out for help, love yourself, know that you're going to be supported and held, even though it's going to feel yucky and I felt yucky right. And if you are in a loving, committed, communicative relationship with yourself or with a partner, it's okay. It's okay and I would say my peak sexual experiences have been very energetic, very energetically based, and so, especially as sensitive empaths that can feel energy to such an exquisite degree, why are we denying ourselves if it's in a healthy container, right?

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So this is not sessions. I'm not speaking to sessions. I'm not speaking teacher-student relationships in a loving partnership where communication is open and you're speaking your desires, your fears and your boundaries, and they are honored Always. These are places and spaces you might want to explore, but start with yourself, always, always start with yourself, because knowing what you desire, knowing what you enjoy, knowing where your bliss factors are, is always the first step in my mind. So with that, thank you. Thank you so much for listening. If you have been a victim of sexual assault, please reach out. I will help you get connected to the right people and places so that you can feel supported.

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And the reason why we need to keep talking about this is because it is happening. And if we are gonna create an expansive Reiki industry that will continue to grow and thrive, we need to do some weeding and we need to create spaces where male practitioners have a safe place to practice if they're conducting themselves ethically Right. And so, if we need to do some weeding, let's do some weeding. We need to get out and get in and do the dirty work. Let's weed the fuck out of this, right, and know that that's not happening everywhere. And if it's not happening in your marriage or your partnership and this is a beautiful, blessed thing that is easily to mix in with your sexuality and your sensuality let it be blissful. Give yourself that, yes, yes, reiki and sexual energy can go together. And if it's in that healthy container okay, there's my rant for today. In that healthy container Okay, there's my rant for today.

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Thank you all so much for listening, for taking your time to hear the message, letting it really settle in and feel the feelings. Please, please, please, share your comments or takeaways or aha moments in our Facebook group, our Moon Rising Shamanic Institute and our Facebook page, which is Moon Rising yeah, it's Shamanic Mystics Rising. Oh my God, that took me a hot second. Mystics Rising, Moon Rising. So come find us over there, share your thoughts, and may the whispers of wisdom continue to rise from within. Thanks, everyone.

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